Mother

by: Firdaus

This is an essay about mothers. First and foremost what is a mother? Without going to the dictionary (not that I have one laying around), I would say mother is someone who loves you unconditionally. It’s hard nowadays to define what a mother is. Imagine if I was a writer for the New York times and I said, technically mother is someone who gave birth to you. Imagine the backlash from step parents and the LGBT communities if they heard that. So I’m going to stay safe and said mother is someone who loves you unconditionally, no matter what you did, what you didn’t do, if you didn’t study for a test and instead wrote an essay because you’re trying to procrastinate from opening your books, no matter what, in  end your mother is going to love you. That’s what most people think of about their mother isn’t?  

Now that raises a few questions, such as, can your girlfriend be your mother? First, that’s a weird question, second I think she can be if she wants to, she can do whatever she wants to in her life, granted she follows the law. So if she wants to be your mother, I say go ahead. I don’t see the point but she have to choose though whether she wants to be your girlfriend or your mother. She can’t be both because that would he weird. Is there a point to what I’m writing? Am I just making this up as I go? Yes to both, the point is anyone can be your mother if you let them. Because let’s face it, life isn’t fair sometimes. 

Some people might not be so lucky to have a mother in their life. So if you are feeling down and feel unloved, I would say you should go out and start saying “mommy?” to your professors or friends or even strangers. They might be weirded out and sent you to mental hospital but at least you would know, they are not the mother you deserve. Plus, if you keep asking that eventually someone will say yes, persistent is key in life. And if you do meet someone like that, please let me know cause I’m kind of curious how someone like that can exist. Okay for safety reasons maybe you should not do that. What I am trying to say is, you get to decide your mother. 

It’s maybe too late now that you all grown up, but everyone needs a mother, no matter how old you are, how many mistakes you made, everyone need somebody who loves them as you are. Don’t blame your parents or life for how things turn out they way that it did. You would only go downhill if you did that. Instead you can make a powerful little thing called  a choice, and live your life the way you want to. I know I make it like it’s so easy. I don’t know, life is complicated I guess. I could never imagine if you grew up with a messed up mother who sexually abused you or mentally tortured you. Life isn’t fair sometimes. I hope you pull it through in the end. Maybe I can be your mother if no one else want to. Not that I have a great parenting skills or something. I can barely motivate myself to study. But I think you’ll do just fine and hope that you can find your mother.